Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Take some responsibility

Something that I tend to find going around the online ED community is blame.

It downs't happen very often, but when it does it can have devastating effects.

I'm talking about individuals blaming other accounts for triggering them, causing them to end up in hospital, starve, self harm etc.

Here's what I have to say about this.
Firstly, if an account is bullying you, report them, unfollow them and block them. Cyber-bullying is a huge problem, and I'm incredibly sorry if this is what is happening to you. However, that is not what this post is about.

I'm talking about accounts who post pictures, or personal tweets that may trigger others. They have a right to express themselves. They aren't telling you what to do, and at the end of the day, your behaviours are your choice. Yes, our illnesses can make it difficult to make the correct choice, but it is up to YOU. If you find blogs, instagram accounts, twitter accounts or any other online content triggering, please find the strength to unfollow them, or block them from your computer. Don't go searching for the things that you know trigger you.

And if you do get triggered by something online, talk to a friend or therapist about it. Don't go attack the account holder. Some people are smaller than others. They still have a right to be body-posi and post pictures. Some people are on a lower intake than others. They still have a right to be proud of the meal they ate. Some people have healing scars. They still have a right to be proud of how they have healed and show themselves off.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is take responsibility. Don't seek out things that trigger you, and don't post something with the goal of triggering others.

Remember, we're all people behind the computer screen. We have emotions too. We're all struggling. Let's help each other, not hurt each other. And blaming each other is a way to hurt each other.



  1. Very true. And you're right - we're all people and we're all struggling. We should be helping to build each other up, not tear them down.


  2. I second what Bella said. :) People like to blame others for their own actions.